Dear Prudence at Slate.com is an advice site for some of the more progressive of the progressives.Â So there are lots of letters and advice response on how to handle LGBT issues, conflicts within class consciousness, how to manage vegan-nonvegan relationships, and Tinder mini-norms.Â NRO’s Graham Hillard’s take on it all is that Mallory Ortberg (Prudence) “dispenses increasingly ridiculous progressive orthodoxies, and a not insignificant portion of her audience, well, laughs at them.”Â The point, Hillard wants to emphasize, is that:
Regular people â€” â€œthe great unwashed,â€ in Edmund Burkeâ€™s oft-repeated phrase â€” know both instinctively and by hard experience that to live as the sexual Left preaches is to enter a world of confusion, heartbreak, and deep, abiding dissatisfaction.
Simple truth, do you? So, to start, Hillard’s charge is that the advice column on a progressive website gives progressive-friendly advice.Â The second point is that “Regular people” know instinctively and by experience that it’s terrible advice.Â Â Sigh.Â Â To the first point — what do you expect?Â If NRO ran an advice column, I would expect it all to be conservative and religious material.Â You go to the kind of advice you want, so it’s really a problem with affiliated advice columns, isn’t it?Â (For example, if a student comes to me about a crisis of faith, I interpret it as a request for more information about atheism and Slayer albums to listen to, not asking for spiritual healing. Were she to approach a priest, she’s requesting something different.)
To the second point, isn’t the matter more complicated than that?Â Isn’t one of the replies by progressives that most of these norms and intuitions are products of societies that did not abide difference, and when we aren’t under those social conditions, there are many wider livable lives than we’d anticipated?
But Hillard’s not done.Â His biggest complaint is that:
The problem with these cubes of p.c. baloney â€” aside from the fact that, if heeded, theyâ€™re likely to leave Ortbergâ€™s readers in worse shape â€” is that their cumulative effect is to move acceptable discourse (indeed, acceptable thought) ever leftward. Because Ortberg makes pronouncements rather than arguments when discussing the latest trends in gender and sexuality, the casual reader could be forgiven for believing that the argument has already happened somewhere, that the Left won, and that the only remaining thing is to climb on board.
Hillard wants arguments.Â It’s part of the regular right-side nonsense that liberals are bad at argument, don’t argue, are fact-avoidant, and so on.Â But I looked at some of Prudie’s replies, and they are full of argument.Â Here’s one from one of the columns Hillard notes, about a bisexual student who was in a relationship with a married couple, who now have a baby on the way:
Get out now. This couple is producing red flags at such an accelerated clip that they could double as a red-flag factory …. You donâ€™t want a child, and Dave and Sue are about to have one. You donâ€™t want to be treated like a dirty little secret, but already you feel uncomfortable spending time alone with Dave because of the unhealthy, triangulated dynamics between the three of you.
That’s an argument.Â But perhaps not the kind of argument Hillard wants, one that would go something along the lines: what were you thinking, being Bi- and getting involved with a married couple to begin with… you must not be Normal.
Here’sÂ a thing that normal people know either intuitively or by experience: communication is for the sake of relaying the information needed (or thought needed) for the situation.Â Bisexual people go to the advice column at Slate about their current relationships for advice about the relationship, not about why they shouldn’t be Bi- or that they shouldn’t have done what they did.Â Moreover, normal people know by intuition or by experience that arguments are often there, but you’ve got to be looking for the piece of controversial information in the communication, not for what you think is controversial.
For sure, Hillard laments something lamentable — that people exist, get news in, and even advice within ideological bubbles that rarely are questioned internally.Â It’s easy to see it looking in the culture sections of those you hold in contempt. But when you can’t detect reasoning internal to those cultures or in their advice columns, that’s more evidence that you’re the one who can’t get outside the ideological bubble except to gather dirt. (John had a nice column on this phenomenon, asking whether straw-manning is inevitable.)
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This is a great example of the centrality of the audience to the constitution of arguments. What is controversial in one context is not controversial in another. Naturally, what is taken for granted in one context then would seem to be wrongly ignored in another context. This is going to determine not only what kinds of arguments are made but whether they’re made at all.
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